...and yet completely done in?
So, while waiting for my massage - gotta be ready for Harry Potter tomorrow! - let me tell you about yesterday's averted disaster.
Yesterday was Epcot, and a fairly late start. Ferrett and I were on our own because we decided that rather than eat cafeteria food here at the hotel we would have our lunch at Epcot. We are on the Disney dining plan, which in mice but a bit confusing, so when we got to Norway and I asked if the restaurant counted toward the daily counter service or the sit down and it counted toward the latter, I rejected it. To Ferrett's great consternation because he felt like I was making all the decisions and treating him like a child. I got upset because I felt like he'd scolded me the night before for not explaining the snack part of the meal plan and now he was yelling at me for trying to explain the counter service part.
Essentially, we were talking past each other and each feeling like the other wasn't listening. Plus we were hot and our feet already hurt and we were both hungry: powderkeg central.
I could feel shouting and tears coming on. So I turned and walked away three paces just to get myself under control. Ferrett thought I was storming off, so he turned the other way and walked about 10 feet.
But then he stopped. And I came back. And we both apologized those stiff, "I don't think I was wrong, but I'm sorry we are miscommunicating" apologies that at least let you start talking. And we found someplace cool to sit down, get food, and actually talk about what happened. By the time lunch was over, we were tender with each other. A few minutes back to regular activity and all was fine.
There's a lesson in this. Sometimes you can both be right for different reasons, and both be wrong because you aren't communicating. From there, it's easy to turn it all into trench warfare. We could have stormed off in different directions and spent a miserable day separately outraged. Instead, we resolved it in less than 15 minutes.
It's hard, because you have to swallow your pride enough to hear the other person. But man was it worth it. We had a great day.
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